We’re just different!
|Focused||Comprehensive - especially when it comes to relationships|
|One thing at a time||Every comes and goes together|
|What happened earlier in the day has no connection to something later in the day||What happens earlier in the day has everything to do with what happens later in the day|
|Task oriented||Focus on Relationships|
[Part of Being a Provider / Protection]
[Part of Being a Helpmate]
God said, "It's not good for the Man to be alone; I'll make him a helper, a companion....”
Helper does not mean inferior (it’s says more about the one needing help)
Man is incomplete, he needs help
Culture is trying to tell us there is no fundamental differences, they don’t accept it.
God -> Men and Women are absolutely equal, however equality does not mean sameness.
Man/Women each think differently, view life differently.
Crux of existence for a woman:
- Sense of relationship
- Interconnectedness of people
- Relationship colors every aspect of a woman’s life
|Use conversation to expand and understand relationships||Use talk to covey solutions|
|See People as mutually dependent||See People as self-reliant|
|Acton's within a context, linking one moment to the next||Regard events as isolated|
It may be chitchat to a man, but to a woman, it’s lifeblood
How we see life differently:
|See’s everything as connected, therefore describes it that way||(A Man’s view of this is “takes forever to get to the point,” “Land the Plane Already”)|
|Sharing what is on their minds, that what makes it relevant. We are together, there is no “Big Point”, no decision is required||Just strives to get to the bottom line, cut away non-essential information|
|Sharing our hearts, that’s enough!|
Women will fight isolation
|Tend to be tough and strong||Tender and Gentle|
|Logic and linear thinking||Emotion and Verbal communication|
|Risk taker, ready to “Go for it”||Security and Order|
|Look towards the long haul||Concerned about here and now|
|Skeptical and Suspicious||More believing and trusting|
|Rough and Calloused||Keen sensitivity to the slightest breeze|
|Doesn’t react to a breeze||Notices beauty of even the tiniest flower|
|Not aware of the smallest of flowers||Constantly aware of all the changes going on and around it|
|Not sensitive to slight changes||Able to react to the slightest variation in the environment|
|Strength, when harnessed can pull a plow that four men couldn’t pull||Reacts swiftly toward anything that might hurt it|
|Tend to plow through circumstances||Man “feel” life and her surroundings with much more sensitivity|
Based on this, here’s some questions to leave you with:
In chapter 7, Stu spent time talking about how culture doesn’t want to accept (other than physical differences) that Men / Woman are different. Do you agree/disagree, why?
In Gen. 2:18, “God said, ‘It's not good for the Man to be alone; I'll make him a helper, a companion....’” Do you think your need a helper? Why/Why not?