Our kids were designed by God to make an impact on this word. To live for a reason.
Father’s are accountable/responsible to help them understand they are to count for something in God’s great scheme of things.
We are to let them go, give them guidance and a smooth release.
#1 issue as reported by kids was the inability or unwillingness of parents to release their grown children.
Skillful parenting does not come naturally. Help them in their personal responsibility to the Lord to increase and personal responsibility to Dad/Mom decrease. At times we must let them struggle.
Letting go is a process - we must practice - to get good at it, it starts at birth and then follow through each of the “first others”. Start practicing now.
- Adulthood - growing up
- God’s view of what it is to be a man or a woman
- Men - Tender Warriors - Pro-visionaries, men who stay and stay and stay
- Women - Strong in companionship ability, nurturing skills, development of other Human beings - a helpmate suitable
- Preparation for marriage - God make us to live out specific roles
“As arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are children of one’s youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver if full of them”
Our children are the only messages we’ll send to a world we’ll never see. They are the only provision we have for impacting a world at a distance.
In summary, As fathers we are accountable/responsibility to help our kids (others) understand they are designed by God to make an impact on this world, live for a reason. As we do this we need to be thinking in terms of letting them go. This in itself is a process that we must practice (starting at birth and through each of the “firsts” in their lives.) The target is to; get them to adulthood, help them see God’s view of what it is to be a man or a woman, prepare them for marriage (how we should live out our specific roles in the marriage.) Our children (others) are the only messages we’ll send out to the world, make an impact moving forward.
Based on this, here’s a question to leave you with:
In Chapter 11, Stu quoted a statistic regarding the number one issue for a group of adult children about their top five concerns as it related to their parents. This top issue kids was the inability or unwillingness of parents to release their grown children. What do you think about the notion regarding "letting them go" and a "smooth release?"