“Two are better off than one, because together they can work more effectively. If one of them falls down, the other can help him up. But if someone is alone and falls, it’s just too bad, because there is no one to help him.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (GNT)
To break free from the temptations in my life, I'll never do it on my own and without support. I won’t succeed in changing by myself.
But that doesn’t mean there’s no hope for change.
Once I understand that I can’t change on my own, I’ll be free to see how God is working to transform my life by using other people to help me change.
God wired me to need others in order to grow. I need other people to help me break free of hurts, habits, and hang-ups.
I need accountability in my life. The very thing that I want least is the very thing I need most. I need a friend who checks up on me, and I need a group who supports me.
The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, “Two are better off than one, because together they can work more effectively. If one of them falls down, the other can help him up. But if someone is alone and falls, it’s just too bad, because there is no one to help him” (GNT). This is true for falling into temptation as well.
I need somebody in my life to help me with the habits I want to change. I'm not going to change them on my own.
Everybody is tempted. It’s a myth to believe that one day I’ll get to a point in my spiritual life where I'm not tempted anymore. But the truth is, the more mature I become, the more Satan is going to put me on his “most wanted” list.
The Bible says, “Brothers and sisters, if someone in your group does something wrong, you who are spiritual should go to that person and gently help make him right again. But be careful, because you might be tempted to sin, too. By helping each other with your troubles, you truly obey the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:1-2 NCV).
What’s the law of Christ? Love your neighbor as yourself. How can I love my neighbors like myself? I do it by helping others through temptation. I do it by working together to stay consistent in areas I want to change. And I do it by helping others break bad habits and start good ones.
God created me to need others. The moment I enlist someone else to help me, the pressure to give in starts dissipating and the temptation starts weakening. That’s the best way I can love my neighbor—and my neighbor can love me.
In summary:
Lasting change and freedom from temptation aren't meant to be tackled alone—I need the support of others. God designed me for community, where accountability and encouragement helps me overcome struggles, break bad habits, and grow spiritually. Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 highlights the power of partnership: when one falls, the other can help them up. True transformation happens when I admit I can’t do it alone, invite others into my journey, and support each other with love, as taught in Galatians 6:1–2. Helping one another through temptation is how I fulfill Christ’s law of loving our neighbor.