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Friday, May 8, 2015

Becoming a Likeable Person

In review of Genesis 39:2-4 it says, “Joseph lived in the home of Potiphar, his Egyptian owner. Soon Potiphar realized that the LORD was helping Joseph to be successful in whatever he did. Potiphar liked Joseph and made him his personal assistant.”

Bottom Line:
The Lord was with Joseph, and gave him success in whatever he did. His master noticed this and also liked what Joseph was doing and as a result put him in charge of all he owned.

What this means to me:
When I do the very best I can in every situation, living in obedience and pursue God’s will, God will give me success. How I live my life in this manner can have an effect on how I’m viewed by others and can lead to favor and greater responsibilities.
In order to stand out, I need to be likeable, otherwise I won’t be trusted or even promoted.  One of the great fallacies of our culture is being likeable is just a matter of personality. Someone is either a likable person or their not.

What I’m learning is the likeability is not personality; it’s character. It’s behavior. It’s how I choose to relate to others. Likeability is possessing the attractive attitudes, and those are choices, and the relational skills that cause others to want to work with me.

Rick Warren explains that one of the biggest secrets to being liked by others is to just, “like them.” That’s it. If I like people, they’re likely going to like me in return. If I don’t like people, they probably won’t like me. To be likeable I just have to like others. I have to genuinely enjoy them. I have to choose to be interested in others and think less about myself.

Joseph is a good example of likeability in Genesis 39:2-4: “Joseph lived in the home of Potiphar, his Egyptian owner. Soon Potiphar realized that the LORD was helping Joseph to be successful in whatever he did. Potiphar liked Joseph and made him his personal assistant” (CEV). Potiphar took a guy who started off as a slave and promoted him to the manager of his household because he noticed he was a good person, and he liked him.

Consider humility, it’s one of the attractive attitudes that make someone likeable. Its much easier to be around someone who is humble than someone who is arrogant.

Another one is cheerfulness. It’s better to be around somebody who’s cheerful than someone who is grouchy.

One other is empathy. When you tell others that you’re not feeling well, would you rather they respond, “That’s too bad” or “I’m really sorry, what’s going on?” When you’re empathetic with someone who is hurting, it's much easier to be likeable. Leaders like people who are empathetic to their stress, who understand, who look at a situation from somebody else’s viewpoint.

In addition, when I help somebody else succeed, then I’m more likely to be likeable. When I’m likeable, I’ll end up going far.

In thinking this through this morning, I’d like for others to see me as helpful, caring and ultimately able to make a difference. Today I will consider some ways I can care for people in my workplace today. I will consider my character, behavior and how I relate. I’ll choose to be humble, cheerful and seek to help them succeed.

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