Progress Over Perfection

“I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.” Philippians 1:6 (NLT)

When my Daughter was little, she would bring pictures to me that she had drawn and say, “What do you think of this, Dad?” I would tell her, “That’s perfect! It looks great.” When I told her it was perfect, I didn’t mean that it was a Picasso. I loved what she had created because it was perfect for that stage in her life.

In the same way, God doesn’t wait until I'm mature to start loving me. He doesn’t wait for me to clean up or straighten up to think I'm good enough for his love.

I shouldn’t do that with others, either. I've got to love them, warts and all. I've got to be patient with their progress.

The apostle Paul is a great example of this: “I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns” (Philippians 1:6 NLT). Paul knew God was doing a good, long work in the lives of the people in the Philippian church, and he was patient with their progress.

Being patient with other people’s progress is an essential part of happiness. Why? If I'm always expecting perfection in people before I can enjoy a relationship with them, then I'm never going to be happy. That’s because nobody’s perfect—especially myself. 

Here’s a little happiness hint: If I want to have happier and healthier relationships, then celebrate how far people have come rather than judging them for how far they still have to go. I've got to be patient with people’s progress.

To be able to celebrate people instead of judging them for their imperfections, I need patience. And the key to patience is love.

Paul says in the next verse, “It is right that I should feel as I do about all of you, for you have a special place in my heart” (Philippians 1:7 NLT).

“In my heart”: Allowing other people to have a special place in my heart is a key to happiness. When I love and celebrate people and focus on their steps forward, then I'm going to build healthy, happy relationships.

In summary:

In Philippians 1:6-7, the apostle Paul expresses unwavering confidence that God will faithfully complete the transformative spiritual work He started in the believers at Philippi. The study uses the beautiful analogy of a parent cherishing a child's imperfect drawing to illustrate that God's love is not conditional on my final maturity, but is present at every stage of my growth. Because God extends this grace to me, I am called to shift my perspective from judging others for their shortcomings to celebrating their incremental progress. Ultimately, building healthy, joyful relationships requires cultivating a deep, loving patience that meets people exactly where they are on their journey.

Bottom Line:

True relational health and personal happiness are found when I choose to celebrate how far people have come rather than judging them for how far they have left to go.

Next Step:

Identify one specific relationship in my life right now where I have felt frustration or unmet expectations, and consciously choose to shift my focus from their "unfinished work" to a recent positive step they have taken. Write down that specific progress and genuinely compliment or encourage them for it this week, aligning my actions with the identity of a leader who fosters sustainable growth through grace rather than perfectionism.