Identity Anchored in Purpose

“I am not trying to do what I want, but only what he who sent me wants.” John 5:30 (GNT)

Jesus lived his life under constant stress. People were always following him—wanting him to heal them or teach them, or worse, trying to trap him and even kill him. Yet, if I look at his life in the Bible, he didn’t seem to be bothered by it. He never even seemed to be in a hurry. He handled all the pressure with peace.

I want to learn how to do that. Over the next few days, I'll look at secrets to stress management from the life of Jesus. If I do these things, my stress will go down and my joy and fulfillment will go up.

First, to reduce my stress, I need to know who I am. My family, peers, and culture will try to make me into somebody I'm not if I don’t know who God made me to be. And a confused identity causes stress.

Jesus knew exactly who he was. He defined himself over and over again, saying things like, “I am the way and the truth and the life” (John 14:6 NIV), “I am the door” (John 10:9 ESV), and “I am the bread of life” (John 6:35 NIV).

When I don’t know who I am, I tend to copy and compare. I try to be someone I'm not—or I feel inferior because I'm measuring myself against someone else.

But God made me to be me—with my own unique set of strengths and weaknesses. There’s nobody else like me in the whole world. I have a unique thumbprint, footprint, eyes, and voice. God never makes copies. I'm it!

Once I know who I am, I also need to know who I'm living for. When I don’t know who I'm living for, I try to please everybody. That leads to enormous stress because no one can please everyone!

Jesus knew who he was living for: “I am not trying to do what I want, but only what he who sent me wants” (John 5:30 GNT).  

When I'm living for an audience of One, that simplifies life—and greatly reduces stress—because my only job is to do what God made me to do.

Do I want to live like Jesus, with less stress and more peace? Then I need to know who I am and who I'm living for!

In summary:

Jesus lived under constant pressure yet remained peaceful and unhurried because he was clear about his identity and purpose. He knew exactly who he was and who he was living for—focused solely on doing the will of the One who sent him. In contrast, when I’m unsure of who I am, I tend to copy, compare, or seek approval from others, which only adds stress. God designed each person uniquely, with no duplicates, so trying to be someone else leads to confusion and dissatisfaction. True peace and reduced stress come from embracing who God made me to be and living for an audience of One—aligning my life with His purpose rather than the expectations of others.

Bottom line:

Knowing who I am and living to please God—not others—is the key to lasting peace and freedom from stress.

Next Step:

Set aside intentional time with God to reaffirm my identity and purpose in Him—quiet the noise of expectations, reflect on who He says I am, and realign my daily choices with that truth. From that place of clarity, simplify my focus: choose one area where I've been striving to please others or overextending myself, and consciously release it to God. This will help me live more peacefully, purposefully, and authentically aligned with my calling.